One strange habit that came out of this whole ... thing ... is, i read the obituaries everytime i browse thru the ST! as well as reports of accidents. i read them all carefully, sometimes pausing, pondering, feeling...
it is as if reading them, i can somehow make some sense of what happens in this world to you and me. not just to other people. but to you and me.
normally, people browse thru the headlines. they might think, what a pity... or how sad...
now, i seem to live out in my heart n mind - lost for a moment - how the event must have unfolded. and how the survivors might be feeling then and after.
the depth of such relation comes only after one experiences death of a loved one.
the most recent was the death of this guy called Alex Lim last Sunday. this one, i felt very very deeply.
in short, what started out as a dispute over a minor car accident unfolded into a nightmare, where he struggled for his life for over a month.
a dashing young man at the prime of his life, a bright future ahead in the financial industry. his girlfriend was at the scene of the accident. she is only 24 yrs old. then i wondered... how is she taking it?
is it healthy to be so drawn to death?
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Hi Grace (:
Not sure if its weird to you that I should be leaving a tag to a post dated a while ago, or whether u want to be reminded of this post.
Just thought that I should share that I lost my Dad a few years ago, and that I do find myself in this situation that you've described.. being "drawn" to death, and as you described, "pausing, pondering, feeling" about others' unfortunate experience. Sometimes I even wonder if im becoming too morbid for my own good.
My Dad used to read obituaries all the time, but his reason was that it was a good practice, in case you miss the orbituary of an old ns friend or an ex-colleague (and should that happen, you will miss them forever).
Today I still think that mourning is a "lifelong process", not that it is going to be painful and negative all the way, because life simply has its ways of showing us that everything will get better. Just the fact that we have our family and friends with us all the time (whether or not they share the same sentiments w.r.t the loss) gives us all an extra reason to be strong. To stay strong for them (:
Here's sharing all my love and strength with you. U've been a very very strong lady this whole time, I'm sure Bernard is very proud of you. You're not alone, and will never be alone! I'm sure he will be there, watching you smile whenever u're happy and proud of yourself over the decisions you've made on behalf of you both in/for your lovely new home.
Much love (: Do keep in touch if you'd like to.
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