To my darling, thank you for loving me

Dear baby,

I have written to you in my personal journals almost everyday for the past few months. I will share today's entry here.

Today, I just want to say, thank you for loving me.

Thank you for caring for me, for entrusting your heart to me, for opening up your life and bringing out the best in me.

True love is the unconditional giving of oneself. Thank you for teaching me that.

On the 1st of every month, i feel a tinge of sadness. As Crystal was sending me home last night, i thot, 5 months have passed... My frens have lovingly taken over the "task" of caring for me. I miss you everyday, and i wonder, are you watching over all of us from heaven? I wonder everyday what heaven is like for you. I know you are still loving me from where you are. You don't have to worry about me, cos you know that God will provide for my every need, as i continue on my journey here before we meet again in heaven.

Yesterday, Elaine and i were supposed to go blading, but it rained heavily. I was secretly relieved. Because you taught me how to blade, and i am still not confident enough to blade without holding on to your hand. The feeling of my hand in yours as we glided along East Coast Park was the most comforting feeling. But i know, i can't be such a wuss forever. So at night, i decided to join some of our frens for mahjong. It was the first time i played, after the last time when you sat with me and taught me to play. I have improved abit, you know? It is a small step, a part of picking myself up and learning to do everything by myself, those things that you used to do for me and with me.

I was looking thru the posts in the blog. Most of the blog was a record of all the activities that we had done together. But that was not all there was to our relationship, for we also learnt the value of just being together.

We started off doing something great, something fascinating every weekend. We went fishing, blading, suntanning, the list goes on. But over time, we came to realize that great times exist in quiet moments too. We then started enjoying time together at home, whether cosying up to a good movie, or with a cup of hot cocoa and a good book. Or even feasting on takeaway (my fave ngor hiang from boon lay) and watching Liverpool matches. During the New Year countdown at Sentosa, we stayed away from all the revelry, and spent the 4 hours or so just sitting on the beach enjoying each other's presence, reflecting and talking quietly. We smiled at each other a lot, we enjoyed those perfect moments.



Thank you for all our beautiful memories.

Love, grace

A Photo Journey thru 2006

The new 2007 calendars are out in Borders. How time flies...

Late last year, i was searching for the perfect calendar for my work desk. A doggie one? a french-word-a-day one? an island resort one? travel destinations? cartoons? I am a perfectionist. All those that i saw were just not it. They weren't special enough.

Bernard knew that i was looking for a nice calendar. One day, we were out shopping along Orchard Road. I wanted to go into Borders (again) to check out the 2006 calendars. He seemed disinterested, and complained that he was tired. He suggested that we go home and rest, and buy the calendars another day. I was so disappointed.

Later on, when we were having dinner on my birthday, he placed a calendar on the restaurant table and waited (quite long, as i said, i'm very blur) for me to notice it. When i finally picked it up and examined it, i realized that he'd taken the beautiful scenery shots of our New Zealand holiday and made them into a calendar for me! I was so touched... it is the perfect calendar.

He reminded me of that day he didn't want to go into Borders with me. Telling me he was tired was just an excuse for preventing me from buying a calendar, cos he already planned to make that one for me. He told me that seeing me look so disappointed upset him a lot, "you know me, i would never be like that. i'll always have something planned for you.."

There was even a meaning for the photos he chose for each month.

This picture taken during our hot-air balloon ride represented "a new beginning"

He meant for this to be like an oasis in the middle of the year... when i flipped to it in May, it reminded me that he had gone to paradise...

To me, this picture seemed so apt, that i was taking off into the unknown...
We waited very long to capture this moment! He didn't want to make me wait, but i wanted to, cos i knew he loved to take such artistic shots.

A lovely sunset for the end of the year, he said.
Last year, he had used this photo to make postcards for his colleagues during Christmas. That was really sweet, wasn't it?

A calendar full of love to accompany me as i journey thru 2006, the year that changed my life.

In Dec 2005, he sent me a bouquet of flowers at work, for a beautiful 2006 ahead.....

I love you for who you are...

Today is my last day in Citi. How did it come to this?

I think i had done well, and had planned to develop my career there. Bernard and i had discussed our career plans, and he always encouraged me thru all the tough times at work, telling me how proud he was of me, and keeping me driven yet sane.

It was very sad to be really leaving. Perhaps because it is my first job, or 'cos i made so many dear frens there... or perhaps cos that's where i met Bernard.


A picture of us taken during Dinner & Dance 2005


Having dinner after work
I was writing thank you notes last night, and i thot, how abt putting in some nice quotes that i like? I have a little Muji notebook where i jotted down a few of my fave quotes. I randomly flipped to the middle of the notebook, where it was still blank, and saw a note written by Bernard.

He wrote,
"I love you for who you were, who you are... and who you will be.... love, Bernard"
And i wrote below,
"I love you not only for who you are, but who i am when i am with you.... love, Grace"

I was stunned.
Cos i'd forgotten that it's there, and even when we wrote it. It was the most indescribable bitter-sweet feeling.

Teeing Off

"At some point, she would have to finish her round without me"
- Chasing Daylight, Gene O'Kelly

This is the first sport we learnt together, without realizing at first.


We both took up the corporate offer for elementary lessons at Marina South. His classes were on Mondays, mine on Thursdays.

One day, i found some excuse to attend his class, in anticipation that i'd be missing mine ;) He had learnt some basics before, so he came over to coach me personally. A bit shy, cos there were other colleagues around...

In the following weeks, he'd fetch me from my classes, and i'd fetch him from his, and we'd go for supper. The time spent together was never enough, and we'd linger on in the car park outside his/my home and chat for ages before parting.




We loved checking out golf stuff, especially clothes (we're both rather hiao~) He loves the dri-fit, turtleneck-type of t-shirts. We even bought matching tees and sunshades... hee...

Golf is a sport that requires much practice. I borrowed from several frens to practise, and to take the PC test. It is difficult to practise and be consistent without your own clubs. Knowing that i'm not comfortable forking out such a big sum of money for a set of clubs (he's generous with me, but it's not something i'd allow him to buy for me), he brought me shopping, bought me a new set of golf clubs, and told me to pay him back in instalments and to take as long as i need. I was very touched, cos that to me is a form of commitment...

Golf is a sport that we spent time encouraging each other to improve on. We'd watch each other's strokes, and help to correct each other. He also taught me (according to one of his customers), that one way to keep those jutting elbows in was to tuck a towel under the arm and not allow it to drop during the swing.

It is through learning golf with Bernard that i learnt the value of compliments. He compliments me all the time, proudly saying "nice shot!" whenever i manage a decent enough swing. When i missed, he'd smile at me and encourage me to continue, and assure me that it's ok (i'm a perfectionist). From that, i realized how powerful simple praise can be, and learnt to always compliment. From simply looking good in a new shirt to exceeding sales targets at work, i would tell him so, and remind him how proud i am of him - a filial son, loving brother, caring fren, and gentle lover.

This is one of the most important lessons he taught me - How to love, and show love.

Because You Loved Me

To my baby...
Last night when i cried, and missed you so painfully, i heard this well-loved song over the radio...
I want to dedicate it to you...
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For all those times you stood by me
For all the truth that you made me see
For all the joy you brought to my life
For all the wrong that you made right
For every dream you made come true
For all the love I found in you
I'll be forever thankful baby
You're the one who held me up
Never let me fall
You're the one who saw me through, through it all

You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

You gave me wings and made me fly
You touched my hand I could touch the sky
I lost my faith, you gave it back to me
You said no star was out of reach
You stood by me and I stood tall
I had your love I had it all
I'm grateful for each day you gave me
Maybe I don't know that much
But I know this much is true
I was blessed because I was loved by you

You were always there for me
The tender wind that carried me
A light in the dark shining your love into my life
You've been my inspiration
Through the lies you were the truth
My world is a better place because of you

You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

Tong Hua MV

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Love, Me...

If you get there before I do,
don't give up on me.
I'll meet you when my chores are through;
I don't know how long I'll be.
But I'm not gonna let you down,
darling wait and see.
And between now and then,
till I see you again,
I'll be loving you.
Love, me.

My struggle

I'm so tired...

If Tomorrow Never Comes...

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one

And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

-- If Tomorrow Never Comes, Ronan Keating

Conquering Mt Ophir

We went to climb Mt Ophir last year (9 to 11 Sep 05). It was a large group of about 20, half of us were colleagues, the other half were frens outside work. It was such a fun time...




I was wearing a cap with "Think about it"
and his T-shirt said "Just do it!"
Wat a coincidence! It reflects both our natures pretty well :)
Like i said in one of the posts, i suppose Ophir was challenging enough for sendetary city folks like us. It was a steep climb with many boulders and rock surfaces to scale. Being young and ambitious, we all refused to use the "commercialized" ladders placed to help climbers, rather, we all used ropes to pull ourselves up. It must be peer pressure or pride, or both!



After a bit of hard work, we reached a refreshing waterfall. All of us happily waded in to splash around. It was so cold, and groups of us gals would hold hands and wade gingerly towards the plunge pool... and when we were right under the waterfall, we'd scream in unison and giggle... then we'd rush away... and then repeat this a few times :) Water massage is rather nice actually. Bernard sneaked up behind me and carried me, screaming and kicking, over to the fall and placed me squarely under the cold gush of water.
So naughty, so like him to do that :)

When we were climbing, he was always behind me, his arms outstretched to protect me and catch me if i fall. He encouraged me, always smiling, always cheerful. And of cos, always taking photos!


There was one time, he stayed behind to help someone who was having cramps, while the rest of us went ahead. We waited for them at one of the rest points, and they took very long. At that time, i started to feel fear creeping into my heart... it's a scary feeling, I was so worried for him.. The rush of relief when he finally appeared was so overwhelming that i didn't know whether to laugh or cry or be angry with him. They took so long because they stopped frequently to rest. Anyway, I'm proud of him that he stayed with the guy all the way, even massaging his leg to relieve the cramps and patiently helping him along.

Finally, we reached the summit!


Beautiful sunset

The night, we took a walk around the campsite, while the rest of the group debated over what game to play. It was pitch dark, but as we walked near some trees, we saw a firefly! Believe it or not, it was the first time i saw a firefly, at least as far as i can remember. He managed to catch it in his palm for me. Such a fragile and beautiful creature!

Later on, as we gazed at the blanket of glittering stars, i leaned against him as he held me from behind. Then, he let go of me for a while, and told me he'd caught another firefly. Urging me to switch on my torch, he wanted me to shine the light on his palm and look closely. (It didn't occur to me at that point that a firefly has light of its own, so why the torch??)

He opened up his cupped hands to reveal a most beautiful, sparkling ring.

It was a ring to signify his commitment to our relationship, he said. He wanted me to be assured that he is serious about me, and of cos, i knew that he also wanted me to agree to ballot for a flat with him (which i had refused for a long time! :)

It was a very private, romantic moment. Our hearts were secretly joyous as we rejoined the group and played Polar Bear.

Btw, it's a game that is potentially damaging to friendships! We had people looking at each other in the eye and claiming that they would never lie to them (which of cos was not true).

The next morning, rise and shine...

My personal trainer

When we were just getting to know each other over short but frequent emails (it perks up a boring/tiring work day!), he found out that i went to Cali using credit card perks. He went to Planet. Then he tried to convince me that Planet is better, and that i shud just try it (he supposed he could bring me, of cos, if i was interested :)

One day, when we were standing around waiting for someone in the office lobby, we discussed gym memberships again. I told him why go Planet when i can go to Cali for free and get essentially the same thing? He replied, "Well at Planet there's me..." My heart skipped a beat as i turned to look at him, with his easy grin :)

Later on, before i went with him to Planet, i was slightly nervous and conscious, so i went to buy myself a new set of nike gear..

From then on, i signed up as well, and we worked out together regularly. He was a PTI in army, so he naturally became my personal trainer. I would look at him quizzically as he taught me how to use the machines and weights. When i'm done, i'll look at him, pleased with myself, as he insisted "2 more sets". I'd bargain with him to decrease the weights or number of crunches per set.. and i'll whine a bit, look pathetic, etc... that's what u can do when ur presonal trainer is ur boyfriend :)
But while he'd entertain my efforts for a while, he still lovingly but firmly encouraged me to persevere, by alternating each set with me as i try to match him.

The gym was also a place we could go for a quick shower after blading, or an early morning run, without having to go home. That meant we could continue with our day while it was still early, and spend more time doing more stuff together.

We were looking forward to the opening of the Marine Parade outlet... for that will be closer to our future home...

What a Onederful World

We have a dream home...

This is the only photo i have of him in the showflat.



It was July 05, when he suggested for the first time to see a showflat... Over the next few months, we visited many condo showflats, went to the HDB hub, checked out interior designers, and discussed at length our fave styles. It was a fun and exciting time.

In Dec 05, we came to one small condo development that we were fairly interested in. We talked about it seriously, worked out our finances, and tried to convince ourselves that this could be the one. However, there was just something missing...

The agent let slip that there was another development in the area that was coming up, which was directly competing with this development and resulted in slow sales. He also mentioned the name of this new condo.

Bernard went to google the name, and finally found its address. We went to take a look.

The property was not launched yet, but sales was going strong. The saying, you'll know it's the right one when you see it, holds true! We both fell in love with the property, however, there weren't many units left, and not one seemed to satisfy both of us. As we drove off, i scrutinized the floorplans again, and saw one that we missed earlier that fulfilled both our "requirements"! We turned back excitedly and inquired about the unit, which was still available. A lot happened along the way, but in short, we came back to place the cheque for it on the same day.

It was an exhilarating moment. We amazed ourselves with making possibly our biggest purchase in the shortest time. But never had we felt so sure :)

Our dream home... It was the highlight of our conversations, as we dreamt about how it will look like, as we discussed and compromised on how we'd like the place to be done up. Being both idealistic, visual and romantic people, we agreed that interior design is important, and the home is not just a place to sleep, but it will be a lifestyle in itself. Even though the TOP is some years away, we went to check out home expos, websites, and furniture stores. For a young couple, this is a big step into an exciting unknown, a precious experience only shared by us. It was part of growing up together. Buying a second property will never feel like this again. Through budgeting together, we had silently agreed to work together towards a common goal, a shared dream.


Our unit number is #01-11. After we bought the place, we went to bid for the car plate number 111. On Jan 11, 06, he smsed me "Baby today is 0111! Its a really special number to us! It represents "Its onederful love!""

This is our dream. Now, it has become my dream... I want to work towards this dream, the only remaining dream that keeps me motivated and going. I dream to be able to move out and live in it one day. I want to do it up the way we envisioned it. I want to hold house parties like we said we would. I might keep a dog, maybe a welsh corgi or a sheltie, which we both liked. I like the location, the layout, the finishings, and i might never find another one like this...

Dreaming of you...

These are a few dreams that i remember quite clearly...

Last night in HK

On my last night in HK, i dreamt of Bernard.

I dreamt that he came back for a while... i hugged him and told him many things, which i can't remember now. In the middle of the dream, i woke up cos i needed to use the toilet. When i woke up, i knew that my time with him was up, and my last thot was wondering whether i told him that i miss him terribly...

I tried to re-dream the dream, if u know what i mean... but i couldn't...

I have a problem with remembering my dreams. But this time, even thou waking up meant my dream was interrupted, it also meant that i can remember it more clearly.

Back from the States

The first night i was back from America, i dreamt of him. I dreamt that he was sitting in the living room, and i was invisible to him. I found it highly amusing to jump around the room and disturb him, poking him and stuff. He got irritated and tried to throw things in my direction. Then i hopped over to him and kissed him, and we both laughed... what a strange dream.

I woke up and cried my heart out.

Soon after it happened

One of my more painful dreams, but also the most vivid.

I dreamt that i was with a fren, and we were shopping around for interior designers for my home. This designer came up with two designs, and he built the 3D models in two boxes. I peered into the first box; it looked ugly, full of splotches of clashing colours. Disappointed, i asked my fren how the second one was. She told me it was quite nice, and passed the box to me.

I looked inside, and at first glance, thot it looked rather nice and zen. But upon closer scrutiny, i realized that it was the crematorium hall... and i was looking up the wood-panelled walls at the high ceiling... i cried to her, no no it cannot be, how can this be nice??

Back again...

I'm back from a short holiday in Hong Kong. In total, i've travelled for 22 days, and have taken a full month of unpaid leave for that (plus some extra days to recover from jet-lag!)

The places i went to, incidentally, are places that Bernard and i have planned for this year and next year. This year, he intended to use the travel vouchers he earned to bring us to HK. The idea was to take several short trips this year instead of a long one so that we can save up for our home. Next year, our plan for block leave was to travel the east coast of the US...

Frens tell me i'm lucky to be on leave, to travel so far and wide... but what is lucky? Will i still be considered lucky, if i told them i'd rather give up everything i have to have Bernard back? I'd rather not be so "lucky" to go on long holidays, if all these have not happened.

However, i know this is an unfair retort, cos there's nothing they can say to that. I know they mean well, and no one wants this to happen. Given that it can't be undone, i do realize that i have been blessed in many other ways. Not everyone, when faced with a painful setback in life, can afford the time and resources to leave everything behind like this.

Count your blessings... a cliche, an often-used phrase, but true.

I've been blessed with Pris who brought me away on such a long holiday, yet not needing to pay for accommodation at all.
I've been blessed with Crystal, who went with me to HK (this short holiday helped me out of a bad "withdrawal" after the US trip). She's like a big sister to me, counselling me, helping me to get my life in order again, letting me stay over with her...
I've been blessed with a supportive family, who are there when i cry and silently stood by me when i just don't want to talk.
I've been blessed with enough resources to go away and spend as i wish.
I've been blessed with a company that granted me such a long leave, colleagues who rally around me, and even people i don't know who pray for me.

I've been blessed with the experience of true love. So short, but so very sweet...

Taking a break

I'm back from a long holiday in the US. Went with Pris to visit her sisters. It was a good break - interesting places to see, new environment, fun and happy times with great company. I thank God for granting us this timely vacation, to be away to just relax and recover from those exhausting few months. Also very grateful to Pris and her family for warmly welcoming me, and showing me so much care. It was something I looked forward to, and it kept me going day after day.


But as with all good times, this too had to end.

Bernard used to assure me that I need not worry when our holidays or weekends came to an end, for there will still be so much so much more to look forward to... many more exciting weekends, adventurous holidays, as we build our treasure trove of memories. The day after we came back from New Zealand, we lay in bed, side by side, and laughed the whole day. I dunno what was so funny... everytime we stopped laughing and glanced at each other, we'd burst into laughter again. I guess we were just... happy. There's no explanation needed for being happy.

As the plane took off, the lights of New York faded through the raindrop-stained windows. Tears rolled down my face as the heaviness of reality weighed upon me again. And this song played over my headset...

Tears In Heaven
Eric Clapton

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same
If I saw you in heaven?

I must be strong
And carry on,
'Cause I know I don't belong
Here in heaven.

Would you hold my hand
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven?

I'll find my way
Through night and day,
'Cause I know I just can't stay
Here in heaven.

Time can bring you down,
Time can bend your knees.
Time can break your heart,
Have you begging please, begging please.

Beyond the door,
There's peace I'm sure,
And I know there'll be no more
Tears in heaven.

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I miss him so much... there's so much I want to tell him, so much I want to share with him.

When I stood on the 86th floor of the Empire State Building, I wished I could share the view with him. I wondered, is there a view from heaven?
As I waited in queue to buy stamps for postcards, I thought, how nice it'd be if I can send a postcard to heaven...

All these will have to wait, until I meet him in heaven again...

Will you marry me?

He had already bought the ring many months ago. He spent many late nights planning for this surprise. It was the most beautiful proposal...

Under a blanket of stars, with a table laid out for just the two of us, complete with our fave wine from NZ. A huge bouquet of roses and chocolates, a collection of my fave photos of him, a lovely solitaire that sparkles like his eyes...
With that, he asked me to let him take care of me all his life...

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Bernard knew that i love the idea of water cottages. I showed him a picture of my dream destination - a resort in Maldives.

At Adex, i actually pointed out a picture of the resort in Sipadan that he had already booked for us, and marvelled at how beautiful it looked. He just smiled and didn't say anything, and steered me away. I don't really remember that moment, he only told me about it later when we were at the resort. He said, i looked a little disappointed at his disinterest, and it was so hard for him to contain his excitement about the surprise.

The resort was like paradise. Everything was perfect. The water cottage was breezy and very private, with a bath tub that overlooks the clear water. The wide, wooden window panels in the bedroom opens out to a tranquil view of the sparkling turquoise sea. He sat on the porch, as i leaned over the railing and gleefully sang (off-key) "Amazing Grace".



At that time, i'd never have imagined that the next time i sang Amazing Grace, wld be as the cortege moves off...

My prayer for you...

We used to always pray for each other...

Now, as i close my eyes in prayer every night, i pray for God to give me strength and fill my heart with His love. Then i wonder how to pray for bernard. What do i pray for, where do i even start?

The guy that i mentioned earlier, who also lost his loved ones... When he was sharing with me, i asked him how he prays for his wife and child. He told me, he gives thanks that they are well with God now...

But i thot to myself... selfishly, all i ever want is for bernard to stay by my side. No matter how wonderful heaven is (i can't imagine), the reality is, i'm still here. All i wish for is that he is here to walk with me thru all the days of our lives... so how do i even begin to pray?

Tong Hua - our song

Why is Tong Hua our song?

I can't really pinpoint it to a single moment when we decided on that.
Maybe it started with him taking part in the Celeb Look-Alike contest (Guang Liang), or maybe we both just like the song alot.
Or it might be because one day, when i was holding him, i whispered to him, "baby you're my angel".

And that became a part of our love story, cos we both kinda like the idea. He likes it cos i always tell him that he's like my angel, always protecting me and loving me. And to me, he's just perfect. His weaknesses are all part of him, the bernard that i love. I told him, without those little "weaknesses", he just won't be him... so, i love him just the way he is. And he loves me the same too... even for my stubbornness, wilfulness, strong opinions n fiery temper.

Redang
The most significant incident about this song Tong Hua was during our trip to Redang last year. One morning we woke up, and i was feeling a little grouchy. I can't remember wat i said, or maybe it was because i didn't say a thing, that upset him. And we both became upset with each other. (Things always sound so trivial when you think back...)

As he lay in bed and i busied myself with washing up etc, we refused to talk to each other. In the end, i sat beside him and tried to nudge him but he ignored me. Suddenly, a strong n well-loved tune broke the silence, it was Tong Hua. We looked at each other in surprise and smiled (i mean, we were in a little island in Malaysia! how random...), and all the unpleasantness of the past few minutes melted away. To us, it was like a little sign, reminding us to put aside our pride, and remember wat is really important.




The Summer Mo Mo Cha house; Our feet in the clear water
Oh yes, almost forgot to explain how come Tong Hua was playing. There was two gals staying in the chalet next to us, and the wooden walls were not exactly sound-proof... so, they just decided at that point to blast the song on their CD/MP3 player or smtg :)

In life, we should...

Swim in the seas...


A beautiful holiday in the island paradise of Redang, where we held each other in chest-deep water, and calling the little fishes as his witnesses, he proudly proclaimed his love for me... (drama, i noe!!)

Fly in the sky...


Our proudest and most exhilarating moment, as we leapt off the little plane 12,000 ft over the magnificent Lake Taupo, NZ. (To be honest, for me it wasn't "leapt off", it was "shoved off".)

Actually, i was a little nervous, and was the last to get on the plane (after bernard). I didn't realize then, that it meant i was going to be the first off the plane! But being the first is better, you don't watch other people falling off the plane and get more nervous.
Bernard said to me after the dive, "When i saw u fall off the plane [reaching his hands out to indicate despair], my heart really sank! and i was like... baby!!??"

Flying high above the clouds, the view was breathtaking. At the horizon where the sea meets the sky, we could see the curve of the globe. When we landed, shaking from excitement and adrenaline, we hugged and jumped for joy as we did it!! Words really can't express the "high" of this experience...

And climb the highest mountains...


Well i suppose Mt Ophir isn't THE highest mountain, but high enough to be challenging for sedentary city dwellers like us :)
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When Hanglu told me this quote (i think it's her own quote!), i thot... this describes our lives together pretty well.

Truly, life is not about owning the biggest mansion, driving the flashiest car, or climbing to the top of the corporate ladder. Each day to us was a collection of precious memories and experiences, that drew us closer as we learnt more about each other and ourselves.

Adding on to her quote, i would say, in life, one should always give and receive love.

~New Zealand~

"New Zealand... Trulyyy Asiaaa..."
sang bernard happily all the time when we were anticipating our holiday. (It's pointless tryin to convince him that NZ is not Asia, he just likes the jingle.)

Somewhere early last year, i decided i wanted to go NZ. While still getting to know each other, he tried to sell me the idea that he is the best travel companion one can have. True to the fantastic RM he is, (the best, in fact!) he convinced me that his travel concepts and styles are very similar to mine, and promised that it will be a most wonderful holiday. So can he come with me pleeease???

Anyway, of cos i agreed; we were an item shortly after :)

Oct approached, and he told me, "don't worry, leave everything to me", so i did. He always pampers me.

When we were on the flight to NZ, he (strangely) indicated that i shud perhaps take a look at the safety instructions in the pocket in front. The usual blur me took very long and many prompts to realize that there was a set of papers stuffed in the pocket. I retrieved it, and to my surprise, it was a detailed itinerary of what we were going to do for our 2-week holiday! The heading "New Zealand, Truly Asia!" (of cos...) sat atop the page, that contained daily commentaries, driving times, activities, addresses, etc...!! It was so well-planned and well-research *touched* To me this ranks as one of the best gifts he gave me. We spent so much time together (even when we were not together we chatted for hours on the phone) that i really wondered where he found the time to do all these without me knowing!

Our adventures:

Hot-air ballooning at Christchurch

Horseback riding in Middle Earth!!!

Jetboating

Glacier walking - Franz Joseph Glacier

The Ultimate - Skydiving @ Taupo!!

Cooking dinner (i think can consider this an adventure as well)
He ate wat i cooked, and i ate wat he cooked. So... dunno which is better ;)

Arty shot - Reflection of Wellington in my shades.

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We both fell in love with NZ. Loved all the outdoor activities, the scenery, the people, the peace. In particular, we love the South Island.
While driving to Queenstown from Glenorchy, we stopped for lunch along the road, and chanced upon our very own Paradise. So quiet, so still, that no ripples broke the calmness of the water, a perfect reflection of the sky.

Our dream is to retire in NZ, beside the gorgeous Lake Wanaka.